Life seems to be getting busier, and more complicated, for the modern day person. Gender roles are broadening (thankfully!), technology is advancing, and many feel the limitless potential and opportunity at their fingertips to craft a life that is unique and expansive. And although this is amazing and most of us wouldn’t have it any other way, you wouldn’t be alone in finding the resultant endless options, to-do’s, responsibilities and expectations, overwhelming.
On a daily basis, there’s pressure to do so much and although there’s much to be grateful for about this (we have so many opportunities and freedoms here in Australia compared to some of our international friends!), finding a sense of balance between work, life, play and adulting, can be challenging. Despite what many social media feeds tell us, everyone struggles to find balance and manage emotions like stress and worry, during certain periods of their life. There’s nothing ‘wrong’ or ‘abnormal’ about feeling this way - but you can be proactive in inviting health and wellness back into your life and creating harmony and alignment.
Because we’re passionate about people being as happy, vibrant and healthy as they possibly can, we’ve created a list of eight ways to balance work, life, play and adulting - because there is most definitely a clear correlation and relationship between them!
Here’s our tried and true favourites!
Have tech free time
As wonderful as technology is, it also creates a significant amount of distress, disconnect and dissatisfaction in many people’s lives. It can be a huge time sucker that steals many (many, many) accumulative hours from our lives. Setting boundaries around your use of technology can do wonders for your relationships, energy (whether you realise it or not, absorbing so much information is draining!) and emotional wellbeing. Try trading a book for Netflix, logging out of your social media at 7PM or having tech free dates with your love, family or friends. Just these simple acts will gift you more time, and gift those around you more presence and a deeper connection.
Find short pockets of stillness, everyday
We often find ourselves out of balance because we’re on high speed auto-pilot. We’re racing from A to B, ticking boxes off our to-do list and caught up in a never ending thought cycle. When we live life this way, we naturally feel exhausted and in overdrive. Finding short pockets of stillness, everyday, can make the world of difference when it comes to looking after your emotional and mental health. In fact, what we quite often see is that when we slow down, we often feel like we have more space. Instead of feeling overwhelmed and time poor, we often feel calmer and less stressed. Give it a try and see if you feel like more space and a feeling of balance naturally flow into your life.
Create boundaries around your work
It’s my belief that we were not put on this planet just to work our bottoms off. Yes, work is important. Yes, we do a lot of it so we should try our best to do something we enjoy. But no, work shouldn’t be our whole life. I’ve never met anyone who works crazy hours and is genuinely and deeply happy - never. The happiest people I know work, but also invest time into nurturing their relationships and friendships; take regular vacations; invest in their health, wellbeing and self care and spend time building a positive relationship with themselves. Yes, working more hours may get your extra money in the bank, but it definitely won’t buy you happiness.
Invest in having fun and doing things that light you up
Having fun makes us feel good and feeling good is what this life is all about. Identifying what lights you up and intentionally creating space and making time to do those things is a game changer. When we feel a sense of joy that radiates from the inside out, we are kinder, more loving, creative and happier. And who doesn’t want more of that?!
Spend time with people you look up to and admire
We really are the people we spend our time with, so why not choose to share your days with those who inspire and encourage you to be your best and most vibrant self? With life pulling us in so many different directions, it can be hard to fit everything in - that includes nurturing our relationships with the people in our lives. Be selective with who you allow in. Do they make you feel good about yourself? Understood? Heard? Supported? These are the kinds of people we should be sharing our precious time and energy with.
Get rid of things that don’t serve you
There are many things in our everyday lives that take up space (from a physical space and time perspective) and don’t serve us. A cluttered home that we seem to lose things in and waste lots of precious time searching for. The bills that aren’t automated. The alerts on our phone that tell us when we have a like, message or email. The endless wardrobe options that make it twice as time consuming for us to get ready of a morning. The obligatory catch ups you have with people who don’t light you up.
All these things rob us of our time and energy, and contribute to making us feel overwhelmed. It’s amazing how much doing simple things - like decluttering, organising, saying ‘no’ and automating - can have on our overall wellbeing and experience of having balance in our life.
Use your time wisely
Let’s be honest - most of us waste time. Netflix anyone? Instagram anyone? While I’m not saying that we should remove these things from our lives (because I personally enjoy them!), I am suggesting that we be discerning about how much time and energy we hand over to them. If you’re already feeling time poor and out of balance, making small shifts to how much time you spend doing things like trawling social media or watching movies is a great place to start making a change.
Take time out to recharge
I’ve identified for myself that I function best when I take time out every three months (such as a long weekend away) and have one bigger holiday every year. Although this may not be possible for everyone, it’s imperative that we each sit down and assess and honour our individual needs so that we can thrive and be our best and healthiest selves. Time out needn’t cost much money either - it could be as simple as going camping or doing a house swap with a faraway friend for a weekend!
And there you have it, eight simple but powerful and life enhancing ways to invite more balance into your life. If the thought of jumping in and implementing all these tips overwhelms you, then start small. Choose the one that resonates with and touches your heart the most, or work through the list one by one. Despite what society so often has us believe, life doesn’t have to feel stressful and ‘full’ - it can (and should!) feel light and inspiring, and fill you with a sense of freedom and spaciousness.
Here’s to living our best lives and honouring our needs.
Che writes money making and biz building copy for Wellness Entrepreneurs. She helps women plan and write content that captures the attention of their ideal clients, builds trust and grows their businesses. When she's not slaving away at her laptop you can find her spending time in nature and doing yoga. She also loves cinnamon and turmeric and often smiles so much her jaw hurts.